Moms Don’t Just Make Life — They Hold It Together

Mother’s Day is more than just flowers and breakfast in bed. It’s a powerful reminder to celebrate all mother figures, acknowledge their invisible labor, and support maternal mental health and equality.

As a psychologist and parent mentor, I see the unseen emotional load mothers carry—every day, not just on Mother's Day. This year let's go deeper and offer true appreciation rooted in understanding, support, and inclusivity. 

Celebrate All Mother Figures – Not Just Biological Mothers 

When we say 'Happy Mother’s Day,' let’s remember not only the grandmothers, aunts, adoptive moms, stepmoms, and caregivers who mother in powerful ways, but also the mothers who have lost a child or those who prepared to be mothers and couldn’t be one. Every story of motherhood deserves recognition and respect." 

One of my clients often shares how her aunt raised her like a daughter after her mother passed away. “She never asked for the title,” she once told me, “but she earned it.” 

Let’s cherish the love, care, and selfless sacrifice of all those who mother, whether through birth or by the countless ways they offer their hearts and hands. 

Shining a Light on Postpartum Depression and Maternal Mental Health 

Motherhood can bring both pure joy and deep vulnerability. Postpartum depression (PPD) affects 1 in 7 mothers, and yet stigma silences many from seeking help. 

In therapy, I supported a new mother who felt “ungrateful” for being overwhelmed. She thought loving her baby meant she shouldn't feel sad. Once we normalized her experience and gave her the tools, she began to recover. 

Let’s keep the conversation going about postpartum depression and maternal health—because these conversations matter every month, not just in May. Together, we can raise awareness and support year-round. 

 The Cost of Invisible Labor 

Mothers often carry the mental load—planning, remembering, and managing everything from school lunches to emotional wellbeing of the family. 

This invisible labor leads to burnout, resentment, and sometimes depression. It’s vital that families and workplaces acknowledge this burden and actively support maternal equality. 

Tip of the Day: Ask mothers in your life what would feel supportive—not just on Mother’s Day. Listening and lightening the mental load goes further than a gift ever could. 

Supporting Maternal Health and Equality in Policy and Practice 

Beyond individual support, we must push for maternal health support—from better access to healthcare to policies like paid parental leave. 

In one workplace I consulted with, they implemented "maternal wellness leave," which helped reduce burnout and improve employee retention. Real change is possible. 

Supporting mothers means supporting systems that allow them to thrive, not just survive. 

Inclusive Mother’s Day: A Celebration That Embraces All Emotions 

For some, Mother's Day brings grief or complex emotions—due to loss, infertility, or disconnected relationships. 

"If you or someone you care about is feeling a mix of gratitude and grief, know that it's completely valid. Consider writing a letter, planting a tree, or spending time with your chosen family. Find a meaningful way to honor your unique journey and create a tradition that reflects your story. 

Let’s work towards an inclusive Mother’s Day celebration that welcomes everyone’s experience. 

5 Actionable Ways to Support Mothers This Mother’s Day 

1. Offer Emotional Validation: Say, “I see how much you do, and I appreciate you deeply.” 

2. Share the Load: Do one task that relieves their mental burden—without being asked.

3. Encourage Rest, Not Just Celebration: Give space for rest, not just more emotional labor. 

4. Speak Up at Work: Support policies that offer flexibility and maternal wellness. 

5. Support Publicly: Share posts on postpartum depression awareness and maternal health advocacy—educate your circle. 

This Mother's Day let's go beyond brunch. Let’s truly honor motherhood—by celebrating all mother figures, acknowledging invisible labor, supporting maternal mental health, and building a more equal world for caregivers everywhere. 

If this message resonated with you, share it forward. Let’s make Mother’s Day a day of reflection, gratitude, and real change.